Saturday, April 3, 2010

How to Define yourself ...

Tonight I have been thinking a lot about who I am. What kind of person am I? What do others see of me? DO I have any real opinions of my own, or am I just mimicking what I have heard other more educated people say? I'd like to think that I have my own mind, my own take on things, my own personality. I'd like to think I have some qualities that make me uniquely myself. The more I think about it the more I realize how much I let others influence me. I don't think that is always a bad thing, because others help you learn and grow into a more knowledgeable person. I guess I am just concern that I am letting others define me - instead of being my own person. I want to make my own decisions, state my own opinions, and in general not have to rely on others for a stance on ..well anything! Politics, art, pop culture, music, fashion ....

I guess what I am saying is even though I am a pretty extroverted person, it doesn't always mean I have confidence in myself. And I regret that. I guess I want to change and believe more in myself and not let others talk me down to a point where I am convinced I am wrong and they are right.

I looked up some quotes on the matter. I literally typed in "quotes on defining yourself". Heres what popped up:

He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. ~Raymond Hull

All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself. ~Ralph Ellison, "Battle Royal"

God has given you one face, and you make yourself another. ~William Shakespeare

Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation. ~Oscar Wilde, De Profundis, 1905

We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. ~François Duc de La Rochefoucauld

Almost every man wastes part of his life in attempts to display qualities which he does not possess, and to gain applause which he ca
nnot keep. ~Samuel Johnson, The Rambler, 1750

Hateful to me as the gates of Hades is that man who hides one thing in his heart and speaks another. ~Homer

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein

Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli

If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise. ~Johann von Goethe

At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvelously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time. ~Friedrich Nietzsche

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